As the name suggests, it means talking to oneself. When we are awake, we are consciously or unconsciously making sense of our physical self, using our five senses, and getting approval from an inner voice.
We are, consciously or unconsciously, continuously analyzing ourselves and talking or non-verbally gesturing to ourselves whether we are ready to face the day.
The psychology of self-talk nowadays is more prevalent than before. It is the process in which we just make our minds whether we are able or unable to face the day. It is our inner voice that is telling us how to deal with situations.
There are two kinds of self-talk.
Positive self-talk is when our inner voice looking at the situation positively and is telling us that we are on the right track and that we can handle the situation and challenges at hand. Of course, this kind of inner voice will bring fruitful results, and we will be able to see things more clearly and transparently. If some hurdle comes by, we will try to overcome them by getting the knowledge, experience, or proper skills. Too much positive talk can lead to overconfidence.
Negative self-talk: This is the inner critic which is always telling us that we are not good enough. This kind of inner voice will affect our personality and self-image negatively, and when we fail at certain things we will prone to quitting rather than seeing the situation. Mostly this happens to people with anxieties or who had faced trauma in their lives.
Fortunately, there are ways to gradually decrease the negative self-talk and in the end, entirely shut down the critic.
We have to focus the inner thoughts in a way to avoid being distracted from the goals at hand and get on to tell us that we are not up to the task because of our past experiences or our inability to cope with hurdles. Once we start focusing on the root of the emotion and try to distract or completely avoid it only then we can combat it.
For example, some people react to the bad news more than others and kept on thinking about it. The thought never leaves them and constantly nag them, creating a dystopian world around them. In this case, if the person navigates his/her situation instead of applying the bad news personally, will help him/her to deal with these thoughts.
Secondly, with telling themselves that if something goes worse how they will be going to cope with the situation, from whom they are going to ask for help, or what will be their plan.
People who talk aloud with themselves in a third or second person have more self-confidence and better self-image.
There are many ways to enhance positive self-talk:
Start your day with three to five positive affirmations.
See yourself in the mirror and smile and say hi to yourself
Focus on the things you are doing rather than thinking
If a nagging thought comes, try to figure it out rather than listening to it.
At the end of the day before going to sleep, think about five things you are thankful for today.
Our inner voice or voices are just like our habits. The way we will think about ourselves will make us react to the world accordingly.
A positive inner voice will make us feel better, and we will have a more positive attitude towards life. As they say, be kind to yourself. Positive self-talk is the tool to treat yourself kindly. It gives you the strength to look around realistically and try to take practical steps to deal with the things at hand.
Positive self-talk reassures you that "you as a person matters", and when doing so you are not putting extra stress on your body. Your regular functions like digestion, absorption, and breathing will go smoothly.
While you are walking, talking, or relaxing your muscles, you can practice this and you don’t have to do extra work to keep yourself calm.
You are better prepared to face the challenge when things go wrong. You will see that your overall health and relationships will be steadily started becoming better.
There was an experiment done on the two rats.
They were put in a cage and started flooding the cage with a way out. The rat who didn’t get panic sorted the way on its first try and the one who got panic couldn’t find one after many tries.
The message is simple, positive self-talk keeps you calm, real, and better prepared when things go wrong, and even when things going your way.
Our brain is not at high alert doing Positive self-talk and we can see the situation. Our personality improves, a healthier attitude starts toward life, and began to have more realistic goals. On the other hand with negative self-talk, our personality weakens, our sex life suffers, and we will be ill-prepared to handle a difficult task along with our overall physical and mental well-being suffers.
Yoga and meditation are helpful tools to focus on our emotions and inner thoughts and to tackle negative self-talk.
Keeping yourself hydrated too keeps your focus on your thoughts. Better sleep helps you to have a better self-image. Staying physically active is a good way to avoid negative self-talk. Eating healthier food helps you to have a better inner voice. Hanging out with friends is another way to improve self-image,
Self-talking is not harmful and talking with yourself in 3rd or second person is even more beneficial for your mental health. Negative self-talk is harmful and can be avoided by focusing on the feelings and the root of the thoughts. Meditation, yoga, positive affirmation, all play a major role in keeping your inner voice positive and your mind and body healthy.